Oh, awesome, we’re live. Rachel had the best question, “Kristen, you’re saying that feminine energy isn’t about making lists. You’re operating in the wrong system if you’re making lists and it actually walks you away. What in the heck do I do if I don’t make the list so I don’t forget things?” |
Today, we had the most powerful, amazing breakthrough as a team here at Living the Good Life Naturally, one of those days that you almost want to introduce yourself as a different person, because there’s been so much growth. It was beautiful. There was moments where it was hard. We did it. You may have hard moments in your life as a family in your business, in your relationships. Mind mapping can help create more clarity and as you create more clarity, you have better connections. |
So, I wanted to show you our mind map. I’m standing in front of our glass whiteboard? Glass board? It’s like the old-school whiteboards, but it’s glass. We love it. We have a ton of different colors. My cortisol level had been going through the roof. Remember, when your cortisol goes up because you’re frustrated, you’re leaking your magnesium. |
We’ve had a huge growth surge here at Living the Good Life Naturally. Massive. What I was doing wasn’t meeting the needs of the company and the team to get done what needed to get done. I was so frustrated, and it was coming out all sorts of sideways. We needed better clarity. So today, in our team meeting, this is what we created behind us because I don’t want to soak every day in magnesium. I want to soak as needed and live a great big, full life. I don’t want to soak in magnesium, be a drama mama, soak in magnesium the next day, be a drama mama, and lose it all through cortisol. |
Let’s see, I think if I stand this way, can you get a visual of that? We could have made this into a list. I see some people hopping on! Tell me where you’re from, what your name is. I’d love to know who’s here, because if you ask me questions, that’ll help guide where this little time together that we have is going. I would love to if you’ve been on one of the Facebook Lives before. I’d just love that, let me know. |
Behind me is this glass board. Now, if we were operating out of a mail operating system, we would have made a to-do list. Here’s what I’m convinced of, a to-do list supports good girl energy. Good girl energy is where you have to be perfect to get all the things done, so that you can deserve more health, more money, a better job, all of those good things. It’s a lie. It’s a broken lie. You don’t have to be a good girl to deserve the things that you want. When you make a list and you check those things off, you’re actually trying to prove to yourself, “See, world? I’m good enough.” |
And here’s what I know. You are good enough right now. You don’t have to check it off a list. When we’re operating in a linear list, we’re operating in a male operating system. Now, we have Mac and PCs at the shop. If I’m on a PC, and I’m using Mac commands, it doesn’t matter how good my intention is. It doesn’t matter how hard I try. It doesn’t matter how perfectly I do it. It’s not going to work. When we’re operating from a male operating system, it’s not going to work for us, because we’re wired differently. |
I wish team was still here so they could be a part of this, because this was a collaborative effort. One of my frustrations was, we weren’t getting stuff done that needed to be done, and there was all these things swimming around in my head and I’d say, “We need to do this! We need to do this!” I’d run around and I’d get frustrated. I didn’t know how to handle it. I didn’t know how to say without sounding like this witchy boss. It was just so bad. So what we did is we created a mind map. Can you see all of that? |
Whitney created this. That’s her, because mine would just be writing. We created this mind map of all the things that needed to happen. What we did in our mind map is we talked about what’s the most important thing that drives everything; our health, our relationships, our ability to serve here at Living the Good Life Naturally. We realized for us right now, where we’re at, it’s our voice. I lost my ability and my voice to communicate clearly what I needed. There was no amount of magnesium on planet Earth to make up for the cortisol drama I was creating. So we realized at the core, we needed to know what’s something that drives this and connects all of it? It’s our voice. Our voice gives us the ability to serve and communicate and create clarity. |
Hey there! Oh, Anne, how are you, good friend? It’s so good to see you. So, we realized it was with our voice that all of this was connected to. If I didn’t have a voice to communicate and team didn’t have a voice to communicate back, then none of this would work. So we put voice at the middle. |
Oh, Lisi says, “I’m from Mount Pleasant.” Oh my gosh! Oh, do you love my hair? Thank you. I gave my husband a gift. I had a pixie cut, and I grew it out. The Brady lady does my hair, and she actually did it today. I love Brady lady days, they’re the best kind of days, so thank you so much. |
Up here, we put a quote that, “Hold the vision, trust the process.” Because when you get to a new level, you have to trust that the things you need will come up to serve you at that new level. I loved this reminder of, “Hold the vision, trust the process.” Then down here in the corner, it says, “The comeback is always stronger than the setback.” Because today at team meeting, we kind of had a little bit of a breakdown. Well, my perception on it just felt very hard. We always want to remember that the comeback is always stronger than the setback. We had a setback, but we’re better. We’re back, and we have more clarity of purpose and deeper connection as a team, if that’s even possible, because I love those women. |
Those are things that anchor us. We need anchor spots on our mind mapping. We have our middle, that core that’s voice. Then we have holding the vision, trusting the process. Then down here, Whitney put a great quote, “The comeback is always stronger than the setback.” Then, over in this corner, let’s see if you can see that. It says, “Focus.” Focus. That one’s kind of for me, ’cause if you haven’t noticed, I can kind of go lots of places. I need to train my brain to be focused to follow through. As what I was doing, I was calling out all of these things. They couldn’t get all of that and get it done. I need to be focused and communicating what needs to be done to serve more people, which we’re really excited to do! |
Those are kind of our cores, and then as what we did is we all did a brain dump. Okay, take all the things that are inside our brains, and we got them out. Oh my gosh, my arm’s getting tired. This is good exercise. For example, we have right here Project Radiate. Oh, I could cry. I’m not going to. I’ll save you my tears. This is my heart and my passion and my soft place to land. We’re prepping for Project Radiate because it opens up in November. We need some things to set that up. |
Let’s see. Oh, over here. One of the things that’s happening is Amazon gift cards. We need to set up some gift cards, because people are wanting to come in and buy gift cards, and we don’t have it set up. That needs to happen. So it got out of my brain and on my mind map. Our More Money Now class. Tomorrow is our last day of our More Money Now, and it’s been a game-changer. I’m a different person today than I was yesterday because of the women that I’ve been hanging out with in More Money Now. |
Theresa, love you so much. Oh, from Mount Pleasant. I love that, I missed that you were from Mount Pleasant. So, the More Money Now, I want to update that video, because the video that’s on the More Money Now for the class that we just finished? The video we have on there now does represent what the More Money Now class in 2018’s going to be. Because the 2017 More Money Now, we created basic awesome sauce together. Everybody leaned in. I’ve never had a class where so many people leaned in and created action, and showed up. It was amazing. |
I realized in that More Money Now down there, the video that’s on the website doesn’t represent what the class is anymore. I have more clarity on it because of the women I’ve been hanging out with for the last 30 days. When it was just in my head, I was frustrated because it wasn’t getting done. But because we created this mind map of all the different things … |
Oh! See up here on snap? I love Snapchat. Does anybody else love Snapchat? Are you guys on Snapchat? I’m going to do some meal planning prep on Snapchat. Now, it may not exactly fit for you and your family, but I bet you can take away some good ideas from it. I’m going to do that on Snapchat. We’ve got it up here, a couple things that we need to tweak on our Snapchat. |
Now, I’m going to stand out here so you can see all of those things. Getting all of those things out of my brain, onto the board in a mind map, created white space in my brain. It’s interesting. A little TMI, my weight has gone up, up, and up and up. I’m eating good, I’m exercising, all that stuff. Guess what? Had nothing to do with my eating, my exercise, or my supplements. Had to do with my stress level. My stress levels were through the roof because we hit a new level. I needed better clarity, and our mind map did that. I feel amazing. My energy increased just getting this up. |
Now, you may not want to do it on a whiteboard or a glass board. It may not be what you put yours on, but you could do it on a piece of paper and get all of the things that need to be done in a mind map and give yourself some anchors. The anchors are crucial. So voice. We realized if I’m not using my voice, if team isn’t using their voice to lift and create clarity, it doesn’t matter what’s happening. It’s not going to happen. For us, voice is crucial. We put that anchor of hold the vision and trust the process. We all needed to trust each other today that we could make it through a hard conversation, and we not only made it through, we thrived. It was beautiful. |
So maybe with your family, maybe you’re stuck in some frustration with your family. Get it out on a mind map. It will create white space in your brain, then new ideas can come in, and the new ideas are amazing! We came up with so many ways to answer the questions that people ask us to serve at a deeper level. That’s what Living the Good Life Naturally is all about and it’s because we did our mind map. |
Oh, Erin! I’m so glad it helped you! I’ll pull out again. That’s our mind map. It was literally a brain dump, and it created so much less stress inside my body. I have felt like I was just going to pop trying to meet all the new things I’m supposed to be doing, and Living the Good Life Naturally didn’t feel so healthy. It is now, because I got it out in that mind map. A mind map is a feminine way to open up space in your brain. If you don’t open up space in your brain, how will you get the insights that you need if your brain is so jammed up with all that stuff? |
Okay, people, here’s what we need to do. Martha just hopped on. I have known Martha since I was probably 17 years old. Martha, I still make your chicken enchilada recipes. But let me tell you this, Martha; they’re not as good as yours. We should have a Facebook party and all get together in the same place. I’ll do dishes, I’ll do prep, if Martha will cook chicken enchiladas, because they are the best chicken enchiladas you’ve ever had on the planet Earth. Oh my gosh, so good to see you, Martha. |
Now, when I say to a woman, “A list isn’t feminine energy,” her claws can come out. So I wanted to show you this is a much more powerful way to work in your operating system than a list is, and it creates white space. Do you see how Whit connected everything on there? Boom boom boom boom boom with the dots? She connected. Oh, like today. I call it a Whit day when I get my hair and makeup done. Whit does that for me. A Whit day is connected to my voice because I have power days when I have hair and makeup done, and it strengthens my voice. Now, does that mean I can’t have a voice if Whit’s not doing my hair and makeup? No way. It’s just one of those boosts for me that I really enjoy, and it’s connected to the voice. |
See all these little black dots and lines? That’s how we connected everything back to our core, our center. That’s our voice, our ability to serve and educate people, and help them get healthy faster. That’s what we want to do. We want to teach you all the shortcuts that we’ve learned and help you get there faster. If we don’t have our voice, that’s not going to happen. |
So for example this says money class graphic. Our old money class, the graphic didn’t match what the money class has become. I needed Whit to update the money class graphic, and you should see it. Our mind map is so beautiful. Has a pair of shoes on it, it totally represents feminine energy and women working with how they heal their relationships with their money. We got the clarity because of our mind map. |
We did this one as a team. So this one happened as a team. You can do them on a personal level. You can do them on a family level. Mind mapping is such a powerful way to bring your cortisol levels down. Let me tell you this, so you understand, because I so want you to understand. There is no supplement, there is no diet, there is no protocol, there is nothing that offsets high cortisol stress in your body. Nothing. There’s nothing you can do to offset that. You can help make it better, but this last two weeks with my stress through the roof, I could have swum in magnesium, ’cause we get the containers. Did I tell you magnesium’s on sale? Best price of the year! $6 shipping. It’s on sale in the store until Saturday at 2:00, ’cause that’s when our retail shop in Logan closes. It’s on sale online until Sunday night. |
That high cortisol when you get stressed, when you feel frustrated, and when you get angry, causes you to leak your magnesium out through your urine. Sorry TMI, but that’s what happens. Cortisol goes up, magnesium gets pushed out, and your foundation gets annihilated. Understanding that magnesium mindset is crucial. It’s more than just soaking friends. It’s more. You want 100% accountability for walking away from that stress, these last two weeks, I didn’t walk away from it. It just bubbled and bubbled and boiled and came out sideways, and I made decisions that weren’t good and hurt the very people that I love the very most. So today, this was our breakthrough. It was amazing. It was life-changing, and it’s going to help me hold on to my magnesium, because I stepped into a better magnesium mindset. |
I want to know. Tell me, do you make lists? Are you a list person? Does this make sense to you about the feminine energy and the operating system, or are you like, “What in the heck? Oh my gosh, what is this woman talking about?” So does that make sense to you about the feminine operating system and operating in the correct system to lower your stress levels? When you make a list, I’m 100% convinced you’re trying to prove that you’re good enough to deserve more money, to deserve more health, to deserve more connection, to deserve more friendships, to deserve more of all those good things. A list, you’re trying to prove. You don’t have to prove it, you can have all of those things right now. |
Here’s my challenge to you. If you are a woman, if you want better health, if you want better energy, if you want to hold on to the magnesium that you’re soaking in, dump your dang list. Get rid of it, and switch over to mind mapping. It’s a game changer. It’s amazing. It’s incredible. Oh, Anne, I’m so glad that makes sense to you! Anne, tell me. Erin, if you’re still on? I just invited somebody to come on, ’cause she could share some insights. |
I want to know if you’d be willing to walk away from your list. Do you ever feel like you’re a perfectionist? Does that come up for you? Do you feel like you have to do it perfect and if you can’t do it perfect, you don’t do it and you don’t get healthy? Do you feel like if you can’t do it perfect, so you just walk away from it? If that comes up for you, in my opinion, it’s good girl energy. You have to prove that you deserve to be healthy, and that’s like a lie in your head. Letting go of that list steps you into a more feminine operating system, and guess what that’s that word for a feminine operating system is called? There’s one word for it. Love. It’s just love. That’s a feminine operating system. Love. Loving yourself, loving other people, and doing it more. Love. |
Creating that mind map is day and night difference from trying to prove that you got your list done, to prove that you’re good enough, worth enough to be healthy or have more money or have better friendships or have a better marriage. You don’t have to prove it, because you’re worth it right now. Remember that L’Oreal commercial? I’m worth it. Yeah. They nailed it. You are worth it. |
Theresa says, “Oh, that’s me, and I have huge cortisol issues, and the list-maker. Changing to mind mapping right now.” Theresa, I kind of quit talking about it. I’m a people pleaser (and oops, sorry, I didn’t mean to knock that) I’m trying to get everything set up here. Theresa, I quit talking about it because people were getting so angry. Then I realized, oh, wait a minute. They’re getting angry about it because it’s a truth bomb. Truth will walk us toward the very thing that we want, but our subconscious wants to keep us the same. So the subconscious starts getting frustrated and throwing up walls. I realized, wait a minute. Being a people pleaser is not using my voice. Remember, voice was at the core. So find out what’s at the core of your map? What’s at the core? What drives it all? If I’m not tapped into my voice and willing to talk about it, then how are we going to create the change that we want to? |
So, I shut up like, okay, I’ll talk about other stuff that doesn’t make anybody upset. That’s good girl syndrome. Good girl syndrome is when we shut up, sit down, look pretty, and spend all your money on clothes and makeup. Now, don’t get me wrong, I love clothes and makeup. You don’t have to love that to be in feminine energy. I personally do. But the shut up and sit down and don’t make waves? I’m not buying into that. Because that spiked my cortisol, because I knew I had something more to share. I let other people stop me, ’cause I wanted to please them. So Theresa, the fact that you leaned in on that gave me evidence. I need to be talking about this more. Thank you for helping me find evidence that I need to use my voice and I’m safe to do that. |
“I saw your video last night, and I feel like you’re speaking directly to me.” Here’s my goal. I hope one day, you and I can sit down and have lunch together. Any time I meet somebody on social media, my goal is and one day we meet in real life. I would love to. “Total good girl over here. I’ve always had trouble connecting with my femininity. Always been a self-proclaimed tomboy.” There’s nothing wrong with that! You can be a total tomboy. I have a sister that goes to Walmart every year, I think she gets two pairs of shoes, exactly the same, and wears those. She can still operate from her feminine energy. I’m not saying you have to like shoes and makeup. I personally do. You don’t have to. You can be who you are and what you like, because feminine energy is coming from a place of love. You have more love to offer yourself and more love to offer other people. |
I thank you for giving me another little piece of evidence that even though some people unfollowed me and sent me some comments and things, I can’t let them determine what I talk about. Especially because I’m in Project Radiate and More Money Now. Those are my two programs right now that are running. Lives are changing. Not just a little bit. We’re talking massive transformation. This is the key topic that we’ve been talking about. The deeper we go, and the more clarity we get, the more amazing things they’re creating. It’s breathtaking, so I’m not going to stop talking about this. I’m not. Thank you for giving me evidence on the days that I want to be small, and just do this beat myself up, sit there, be good and not make a difference in the world. Thank you so much. I’m so glad that we got to connect. |
Oh, you are so very welcome. I want to ask this, does it make sense to you about the magnesium and the cortisol? Once you understand that process, it’s a game changer. Living the Good Life Naturally is not just about soaking in magnesium. It’s so much more. It’s so much more. Have you guys seen the station studio in Cache Valley? It’s this beautiful photography loft, and we’ve rented it. We’re going to go get some videos up so people have a better understanding about what Living the Good Life Naturally is. The foundation is to soak in magnesium. Your body needs more magnesium to sleep better, to have better hormone function. If you don’t buy into the magnesium mindset, and if you’re someone who says, “Soaking hasn’t done anything for me,” I know that we have a mindset issue and we need to combine the two. We need to combine both of those. |
For example, the last two weeks, I lost my voice in being able to communicate what I needed. I don’t want to be that witch of a boss. I love team and I am the boss.I was losing my ability to communicate and just walking around so frustrated. I could have soaked five times a day and not moved my magnesium numbers. I had to tap into my voice. I found as women, when you tap into your voice, who you really are, cortisol levels come down, and that’s so amazing. |
Okay. “Opposition is directly proportional to the level at which you’re creating change.” Absolutely. I believe that. I forgot it, though. It wasn’t connected to my heart on this one, because that people pleasing pattern came up in the middle and I wanted to please those people. And let me tell you, as the business grows, I get more of those. I’m so grateful. I am truly grateful, because when I get them, it reminds me, “Kristen, you have a choice. Are you going to be a people please, or are you going to step into your voice and share those things that you are passionate about?” Today, I stepped into my voice. Here’s the really beautiful thing. Team Good Life allowed me the ability to be loved imperfectly where I was at. That was a beautiful gift that I was given today from them. It was beautiful and life changing. |
I absolutely believe in duality. I just forgot it. That pattern of people pleasing came up and disconnected me from my voice to my heart. Today with Team Good Life, I was able to break free because of the love that surrounded me and the fact that they were willing to love me even though I’d really messed up. They just loved me. They allowed me that flow to forgive me, to truly put it behind us and to move forward. Because they gave me that gift, we have better clarity of purpose. I have more joy and more ideas that are coming to my head. Tomorrow morning’s Project Radiate? Oh my gosh, I cannot wait to go there. I have had this influx of total inspiration and ideas of what we can do to help all of those women who meet every week to create those things that they want. |
So, mind mapping? I hope you’re sold on it. I hope you think “ Hm, maybe I might want to change how I do things.” Because if you’re not experiencing what you want, you have to change something to get something different. Mind mapping is a simple way to step into more feminine energy, and it’s amazing. |
Oh. Now, I do have to say this. That mind map? Whitney just whipped that out. That’s how she writes. My mind map, if that were me doing all that writing, it would not be cute little lipstick tubes and that kind of stuff. Mine would just be words. Some of you will compare and contrast your mind map to what Whit did, and you’ll want cute little graphics and things. I can’t do that and I’m okay with that. My mind map is just words but I still follow the principle. The principle is find your core, what drives you. Put that in the middle. |
For us right now at Living the Good Life Naturally, it’s voice. It’s voice, and remembering that the outcome is stronger, more powerful and more beautiful than the setback. We did experience a setback today, but we came out of it stronger, with more love, and with more connection. I don’t even know how I could love team more. My capacity has increased because of the mind map. My ability to hold onto this magnesium has increased because of a mind map. You need a pen and a piece of paper. Now, if you want to get artistic, you could use crayons or markers. We use that glass board. But just do it. |
Some of you have said, like Theresa was so gracious and leaned in and said, oh, this is making sense to me. If it’s speaking to you, here’s my challenge to you. We have currency in our time, our energy, our money, and our health. There’s a currency. If you will create something on your mind map in the currency of the day that you learned about it, your flow will start to increase. As women, we don’t have to go search for things. We don’t have to go out looking. Things come to us and things flow as we’re in that feminine energy. But it’s when we create action in the currency of the day that we learned it that that feminine energy starts to flow. |
Before you go to bed tonight, just grab a piece of paper and a pen and start putting some things from your brain that need to happen on a piece of paper. Not linear, but just all around. That can help you step into that currency and hold onto your magnesium. Now, we’ve had a lot of questions on magnesium. Our store hours are 10:00 to 5:00, Monday through Friday. Tomorrow, we will close at 5:00. Saturday, we’re open from 10:00 until 2:00. We’ll close at 2:00. This is the best sale of the year. Our next sale on magnesium is calm Black Friday. It won’t be this good of a price, because there’s like a storage fee or a homeland security fee. One of those fees, when we import it, has gone up. So it’ll still be the best price I can give you, but it won’t be this price. |
I know what’s going to happen on Monday, I’m going to get all these emails, “I didn’t know about the sale!” We have been blasting it from our email newsletter, from Facebook, on Instagram, we’ve been blasting it. In the retail shop, it closes at 2:00 on Saturday. If you’re not in Logan and you don’t live in Cache Valley, we have it on sale online. It’s $50 instead of $69, so that saves you $19. Plus we reduced the shipping to $6 flat rate shipping. No matter what you buy, it’s only $6. ‘Cause this stuff is heavy to ship. Oh and did you know magnesium is the mineral of flow and movement? If things aren’t flowing, we’ve got to up those minerals, especially magnesium. It’s crucial. So important. |
Go mind map. I hope you’re going to mind map. I have a favor to ask if you mind map, would you just reach out and tag me? Either on my personal page, Kristen Matheson Bowen, or on the business page, Living the Good Life Naturally, on Facebook or Instagram. Either. If you would just reach out and tag me. Tell me what was your experience? I love seeing what comes up for people, and what they experience. That feedback helps tap me into a better way to help other women understand. It’s actually a way that you can love on other women on the journey with us. Then we can make it easier for us to step into our health. My big thing about creating money and creating health is stepping into it with ease and grace. As you share what’s worked for you, we can all step into it with a little bit more ease and grace. |
I hope you’ve learned something from today. Theresa, I hope you’ll do something for your mind map tonight before your head hits the pillow. It brings your cortisol levels down and it helps you hold on to your magnesium. I have had an amazing day. I’m so excited to start tomorrow. For those of you that are on here from Project Radiate, we are going to have an amazing morning together. Be on the call with us if you can, live. If not, listen to the recording. I’m really excited, because as I dropped my cortisol levels, it increased my capacity to tap into all the ideas that are around me. If that’s something that you want, go soak in magnesium and get you a mind map going. |
Bye, guys. Have a great day. Have a great night. Have a great life. Have a great heart. Have a great voice. Have a great oh, whatever. Anyway see you! |