12 Qualities to Cultivate Health
Stick to it:
Stopping and starting is slowly killing you. Stick to it on the hard days. Stick to it on the long days and especially stick to it on the fun days.
Winston Churchill said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
Willingness to stomp out the fear:
Fears will come up. Can I sustain this? Will I lose my friends that hang out and eat ice cream on the weekend? Will people look at me differently? Will men become attracted to me sexually? Will people expect more of me and what if I let them down? So many fears can be lurking right below what you say you want. Fears that walk you away from your dreams. You say you want it but will you stomp out those fears that come up? Or will you allow them to master your decisions?
The ability to delay gratification:
This is crucial. Have you heard of The Marshmellow Project? Some of those kids had the natural gift of delaying gratification and others needed to develop it. Where are you? Is it a gift or do you need to develop it?
Stepping outside of your comfort zone:
One way you can find out where you need to focus is to ask yourself what feels the hardest? Almost every time that hard place is where the change will happen. So tell me, which is your hardest? Eating well or exercising? Supplements or getting to bed on time?
Focusing on the goal at hand and not letting distractions like your girlfriends eating habits or the nieces birthday distract you from your goal.
So far every single person I have ever worked with has found increased energy by focusing on the health they already have. For example, have you ever just been filled with gratitude that your veins carried blood to your limbs? I never had until my husband had an amputation and then I realized what a gift good veins are. By focusing on what you have instead of always yearning for more you actually tap into what you had not noticed.
If you lose this trait you fall off the wagon and beat yourself up. Being flexible is paramount in creating health. Keep your goal crystal clear but the plan always changes to get you there.
Interesting that when you talk to healthy people they can tell you their stats. They know where they are at. Monitoring your numbers in a way that motivates you is a powerful overlooked tool.
Life Long Learner:
Are you ok with learning more? Are you open that there is more information or does that overwhelm you. Learners lean in to more information instead of using it as an excuse to give up.
Are you trying to be a copy of someone you know that is healthy? Your health and what it looks like may be so different from what others experience. have the confidence that you are creating an original and not a cheap copy. Have you seen those Coach purses on Ebay? They are horrible quality and nothing like what a real Coach purse can offer you in value and style. Why yes, I love my coach purses and have invested in a few that have been in use for over 20 years.
Do you see those resources around you? I will never forget working with a client who was so angry about the cost of a program I was running. She wanted it but it was 2000 dollars. I was struggling with the price also as at that point it was the most expensive program I had ever offered. She ranted and raved and while she did I just kept shrinking lower and lower. I finally said to her, ok here is the deal. I will give you that program and work with you right now one on one which was not even included in that specific program. Her response was, I am so angry, I just need to hang up and figure out my next step. I had gifted her everything she wanted but because of emotion, she did not see it. That was one of the most powerful lessons for me as I realized I also was letting strong emotions stop me from seeing the things I had access to.
Passion: This is what drives you on the hard days. Get specific. What is your passion? Hit your journal and start writing. If you feel stuck, keep writing. The physical movement of your hand will unlock the thoughts in your brain. It is powerful.
“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”
So tell me which is your best? Which one is your very hardest and are you willing to start there?
Leave a comment and let me know.