Have you ever thought to yourself, “Being healthy is so hard. I can’t do this. I give up. I’m done,” only to wait a little while to try again? Judging yourself harshly without compassion puts you more deeply into the very pattern of what you’re trying to walk away from. How about celebrating that you restarted and tried to get healthy again? Have you ever done that? Have you ever celebrated and said, “Oh, my gosh! I cannot believe I did not give up. I got back up and I tried again today.” Have you ever done that?
Doing the opposite of what you’re doing now might just make the journey a little bit easier. I want you to think about your very favorite person to hang out with. If you treated them the way you judge yourself internally, I bet they wouldn’t hang out with you very much. Those patterns that walk us away from help, the pattern of perfectionism, the pattern of all-or-nothing, which are deeply connected to shame, the pattern of playing the victim, the pattern of compare-and-contrast, those four patterns are what are actually holding you back from creating the very thing that you want to create. Here’s the thing. Everybody has those patterns. Healthy people react differently to those patterns when they come up than sick people do.
Today, here is your action item. When you go to bed tonight, I would like you to end your day celebrating all of the beautiful, imperfect things that you did. Even if they were epic failures, find something to celebrate, find something that you can be good to yourself about. I promise you it makes the journey easier.
Now, there’s still some components that you’re going to have to put into place to create help, and you’re still going to have to learn some things along the journey. It’s not going to happen tomorrow. You do have the power to make that journey easy or hard, and it all comes down to the compassion and the judgment with which you give to yourself.
I love morning routines. Morning routine is crucial. I don’t hear as many people talking about nighttime routines. One of my favorite nighttime routines is turning some music on and celebrating my wins and my losses because, you see, if I’ve had losses, that means I’m out there doing something. I’m living. I’m learning. Losses can be great teachers. Losses mean that you’re one step closer to that victory.
Beating yourself up is slowing you down. It’s weighing heavily on your shoulders. Just trust me, just tonight, right before you get into bed, throw some music on. We’ve got a really fun playlist over at the blog on livingthegoodlifenaturally.com, or maybe you have a couple of songs that just make you move. I love Andy Grammer. I love Bon Jovi. I love Sara Bareilles. You know, that music that your body just starts to move to. Abba Dancing Queen? How can you not move to that one?
Put the music on. Start to move. Maybe even throw your arms up in the air a little bit and celebrate. No matter where you’re at, no matter what your family is facing, no matter what your loved ones are going through, I promise you, digging deep and being grateful will help make the journey easier.
My name’s Kristen Bowen. I’m the founder of Living the Good Life Naturally. My goal with the podcast here is to give you short things to think about, not super long, not super detailed, but things that will impact your heart, help you to lean in, help you remember you’re not alone on this journey.
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